My blog is about a woman who is trying to have it all... I am a new mother, a wife and a business owner and am constantly juggling to make sure I can be the best of all 3 roles....but is it realistic?
As I sit outside in the Autumn sunshine ignoring the ironing and taking sometime for me by reading my Good Housekeeping magazine and I read of these amazing women who successfully have set up thier own businesses I am inspired.... but in my heart I sometimes think is what I am doing right?
I feel a constant stress, I want the business to work as I want to bring in money and at the moment we don't have enough money coming in for me to stay at home and not work. The business is going well, I have so many jobs on its crazy.... but I could have 100's of jobs but if I don't fill them it doesn't matter ( I only get paid if I fill them) .... The last few weeks I have had a run of interviews where people have been offered and then not accepted which is the MOST frustrating thing ever and has then given me doubt and put me behind on my targets (which I set myself) so I am then feeling MORE stressed.
Because I then feel this extra stress to succeed I then try and work whenever I can, resulting in the housework and laundry being ignored....This in turn stresses me out. I hate having a dirty, messy house and hate seeing piles of laundry....but just think if I don't work I won't get paid and so this can wait and if I make enough money I can pay someone to come in and clean. Now don't get me wrong, I still clean but I feel like I am constantly cleaning up rather than on top of the cleaning.
I then feel like a bad wife as the house is not how I would like it to be for my family and I am often tired and grumpy due to work and feeling annoyed towards the house.
Really - I would love to have enough money that I don't have to work, that I can dedicate the next 15 years to bringing up my daughter and future children (3 is the plan) and then when they are older and I have time to be able to go back to work or run a business. I would like to be a mother who is always there for the children, always has something in the oven, has time to do art work and get creative with them and who creates a welcoming home.... at the moment I am a mother who doesn't have time,is often stressed and finds herself crying out of frustration as I have so much to do and such little time to do it all in.
My husband and I made the descion to struggle for the next few years,we decided to make the sacrifice of having a tight few years now so it would be easier later, we have 2 good cars, a 4 bedroom house and a holiday home in Marbella. If we downsized or sold the holiday home we would have more money and I could stay at home without having to work.... but then in 5 years time when the children are older we wouldn't be in such a good place as we could be.
It's that constant struggle, that constant need to sacrifice and that constant need to work hard now for a better life in a few years time.... I defiantly need to learn how to cope with stress more so I don't feel so overwhelmed ..... only time will tell if it's worth it and if as a mother, wife and business owner you can really have everything.....
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